I have been reading lately on the definition of the 'gentleman', and found this bit from Mathias Holzfeller:
"Being a gentleman, the masculine hero of every male child born between 1660 and 1960, entails learning when to speak, when to listen, when to assert, and when to fight. A gentleman chooses his battles, wins often, and loses rarely, but never brags. He is the epitome of refined confidence. A gentleman knows when to discuss his issues with someone who will understand them, but never breaks down and lets them overwhelm him. In the back when times, this is what was known as "masculinity" or "manliness."
Today, much of this has been lost in young men and replaced with what many think is masculinity. There is a stiff upper lip and bravado, but both of them fall away and reveal an unconfident, soft core which results in unnecessary violence and harm against the friends and family of the man, traits that are inherently not manly, as masculinity entails the protection and care for the "tribe" at any and all costs, even the death of the man in question. To go back on this role and instead become dangerous to the "tribe" is the ultimate form of betrayal."
I quite like it.
I also like his thoughts on modern men:
"Modern men fight. They fight a lot. They:
[ol]
Do not have the same code of honor, Pick fights over trivial things, Pick the wrong time to start fights, Brag when they win, but complain when they lose. They refuse to concede when they have lost. [/ol]All five of these are wrong.
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You fight, you lose, you admit defeat. You fight, you win, you respect your foe. This is the code of gentlemanly, masculine honor. You never fight a fight that has already been won, and you never pick a target that you know has no chance. When the fight is over, that's that. You pack up and call it a day. You never fight over anything that does not absolutely need to be fought over. If something requires a fight, you only fight fairly, when both parties are facing one another like men. You never throw a swing at the back of a man's head. You never brag about winning. You never complain about losing. You shake hands and respect one another. You take a loss without allowing it to overwhelm you, and then you come back stronger." [/ol]
What do you think? What defines a gentleman?
Quotes from Quora.com
"Being a gentleman, the masculine hero of every male child born between 1660 and 1960, entails learning when to speak, when to listen, when to assert, and when to fight. A gentleman chooses his battles, wins often, and loses rarely, but never brags. He is the epitome of refined confidence. A gentleman knows when to discuss his issues with someone who will understand them, but never breaks down and lets them overwhelm him. In the back when times, this is what was known as "masculinity" or "manliness."
Today, much of this has been lost in young men and replaced with what many think is masculinity. There is a stiff upper lip and bravado, but both of them fall away and reveal an unconfident, soft core which results in unnecessary violence and harm against the friends and family of the man, traits that are inherently not manly, as masculinity entails the protection and care for the "tribe" at any and all costs, even the death of the man in question. To go back on this role and instead become dangerous to the "tribe" is the ultimate form of betrayal."
I quite like it.
I also like his thoughts on modern men:
"Modern men fight. They fight a lot. They:
[ol]
[ol]
What do you think? What defines a gentleman?
Quotes from Quora.com
That which does not kill me, will try again and get nastier