Mothra said:
Not trying to minimize other peoples' struggles, but gotta say - I've never had a gay thought in my life. I struggle with plenty, but homosexuality isn't one of them.
Sometimes people let their own desires and struggles project what they believe certain people groups feel or believe as a whole.
Absolutely, and I have no doubt.
And I didn't mean to suggest every guy who says he's straight has. I'm just saying there are a lot more out there than a lot of guys would ever suspect.
I, at one time, lived more openly in certain ways, but have turned my life around and headed back to my conservative Christian beliefs.
I was always a Christian, never denied it, but didn't always live like one in my personal lifestyle choices. Funny thing is I never voted for anything but conservatives either through it all.
In my dating experiences though, I met quite a few married men, as well as dudes who had girlfriend and were on the dl. Of course, when I found out, I wasn't interested in dating that type. I stuck to single people only. Whether I was dating a chick or a dude. But they were there. In abundance.
And I guess my point in saying how under the radar so many guys are out there, I'm just basing it on who I hung with. I dated military. A lot. And these were alpha dudes. Dated one Corps pilot in fact.
Dated doctors, attorneys, LEOs, firemen, people in the industry and every one of them you would have never known. In fact, one of my exes, an Army officer, and I were out at a mixed club in Hollywood one time. He got up to use the can and this dude approached me and introduced himself. Asked if I was "with" that guy. I told him yes. He said, okay, just making sure because he said "that dude could kick my ass if he knew I was asking you out." I laughed and told him he could kick all of our asses.
So, yeah, the stereotype does exist. And there are guys who you definitely can tell are that way.
But more often than not, guys who you would assume to be totally straight are not.
I've walked away from it. As difficult as it has been to do. Living a Christian life as best as I can. That's all behind me.
We just need to be careful who we label, or judge. Because we're all sinners anyway. And sometimes the ones who point the biggest fingers you find are the biggest sinners.