In a sense the OP is correct.
Everybody in the US wants all their options permanently open despite their past decisions. Nobody wants to be responsible for decisions they made or didn't make.
Colleges don't want to be responsible for decisions about coaches.
Coaches want to be able to easily move between colleges.
Players don't want to stay at colleges they've committed to (losing, no playing time, etc).
Schools don't want to keep promises made to players.
And to top it off, everybody (schools, players, coaches, administrators, advertisers, TV partners, etc) wants to squeeze any money they can out of every situation.
Illigitimus non carborundum