Robemcdo said:
Yogi said:
There shouldn't be shaming of alleged victims.
In fact, there shouldn't be shaming of any alleged person in all of these cases, especially when there is no or specious evidence of any wrongdoing.
The problem most of have with Milli is that he is the shamer. He is that woman you see in the Baptist Church every Wednesday and Sunday who simply doesn't require God because she has the omnipotence to judge everyone regardless if she has any evidence of wrongdoing - and then goes and gossips about the same to everyone else at the church, seemingly oblivious to her own history of sin and wrongdoing for which she has no account.
Am I right?
And let's all be honest, here, nobody likes that woman.
I agree with you point...especially the part of shaming the alleged as well...But let's be clear. I'm not shaming the victims. Shaming would be saying they deserved to get raped because of how they dressed or what they drank or where the were or who they went home with. That is shaming. I don't care what these girls had on or drank. I think they made a decision to have consensual relations with these football players and I've not seen one speck of evidence that they did not. If they had sex with these guys...good for her. if they had sex with a few of them...who are we to judge. I only have the problem with the lying about it and ruining young men's lives. That's all.
Thanks for the clarification. I was just taking off on another tangent, because I get frustrated when someone tries to stifle debate by utilizing the "let's not shame the victims" bull crap.
The fact usually is that two people have had sex. Just because a person makes an allegation of sexual assault does not make that person a "victim"; it just makes them an "accuser". It follows that a complaint of sexual assault doesn't make one an "offender"; it merely makes them the "accused." So, if we're going to have a dialog based on a story where the only fact that can be corroborated is that there was sexual contact between two individuals, then once you shame one party, whether it be the accuser or the accused, the other is fair game for the sake of discussion.
And yes, how someone dresses certainly should be part of that discussion. If I have my bib on and a pair expandable trousers, one could draw a reasonable conclusion that I intend to go out to eat. Now, that doesn't mean that I deserve to have a stomach ache just because I went out to eat, but when the question is whether I consented to going out to eat, the fact that I have a bib and expandable trousers on at least provides a little evidence one way or the other where there otherwise is none.
But, I realize that is not politically or morally correct for this time period, but whoever confused something being politically correct with common sense? Emotion is valued far greater than reason in today's society.