My response, which you did not request, is that there are times, when in my opinion, you present some very good arguments, including resources to support them.
Others may disagree with me, as I think that it is the manner in which you present your argument.
Below are some proven examples of how some individuals are often more successful in presenting their ideas:
Before You Speak
Listen Actively: Show you understand their viewpoint before countering; acknowledge their valid points.
Stay Calm: Avoid emotional reactions, as defensiveness shuts down discussion.
Don't Make it Personal: Focus on the ideas, not the individual's character or beliefs.
How to Frame Your View
Use "I" Statements: Say "I think..." or "In my experience..." instead of "You're wrong" to avoid blame.
Acknowledge & Bridge: "I understand your reasoning, and in my opinion..." or "Your points about X are valid; my thought is...".
Avoid "But" & "However": These can minimize the other person's ideas; try "and" or rephrase to avoid them.
Ask Questions: "What's your perspective on...?" or "How did you arrive at that conclusion?" shows curiosity, not challenge.
Be Humble: Admit you could be wrong or that you might need more information.
Structuring Your Argument
Introduce the Counter: Briefly state the opposing view you're addressing to show you understand it.
State Your Objection: Clearly present your differing perspective.
Provide Evidence: Support your rebuttal with logical reasons or data.
Concede Limitations: Acknowledge the boundaries of your own argument if necessary.
Example Phrases
"That's a really interesting point about [topic]. My concern is that it might impact [result], based on what I've seen...".
"I can see why you'd say that. From my perspective, we could also consider...".
It's not uncommon that I agree with what you post; however, neither is it uncommon for me to just skip them due to the manner in which you state them, despite the rationale in which you defend it.
Others may disagree with me, as I think that it is the manner in which you present your argument.
Below are some proven examples of how some individuals are often more successful in presenting their ideas:
Before You Speak
Listen Actively: Show you understand their viewpoint before countering; acknowledge their valid points.
Stay Calm: Avoid emotional reactions, as defensiveness shuts down discussion.
Don't Make it Personal: Focus on the ideas, not the individual's character or beliefs.
How to Frame Your View
Use "I" Statements: Say "I think..." or "In my experience..." instead of "You're wrong" to avoid blame.
Acknowledge & Bridge: "I understand your reasoning, and in my opinion..." or "Your points about X are valid; my thought is...".
Avoid "But" & "However": These can minimize the other person's ideas; try "and" or rephrase to avoid them.
Ask Questions: "What's your perspective on...?" or "How did you arrive at that conclusion?" shows curiosity, not challenge.
Be Humble: Admit you could be wrong or that you might need more information.
Structuring Your Argument
Introduce the Counter: Briefly state the opposing view you're addressing to show you understand it.
State Your Objection: Clearly present your differing perspective.
Provide Evidence: Support your rebuttal with logical reasons or data.
Concede Limitations: Acknowledge the boundaries of your own argument if necessary.
Example Phrases
"That's a really interesting point about [topic]. My concern is that it might impact [result], based on what I've seen...".
"I can see why you'd say that. From my perspective, we could also consider...".
It's not uncommon that I agree with what you post; however, neither is it uncommon for me to just skip them due to the manner in which you state them, despite the rationale in which you defend it.