nein51 said:
ShooterTX said:
nein51 said:
historian said:
You forget one important point about people marrying early a few generations ago: life expectancy was significantly lower. Today the be average life expectancy for women is over 80 and for men almost as high. Also, the issue is not two teenagers about the same age getting married. That's legal now, although it might require parental permission.
The problem is an adult molesting a child several (or many) years younger in a casual encounter. A huge problem with modern culture is treating sex casually so that people seem to think they have a right to engage in sex with anyone they want under almost any circumstances. The moral & legal issue is when it involves underage children lacking the maturity to consent rationally when they hardly understand what they are doing. Added to this are the professional lapses such as teachers having sex with their students of people filming each other and posting the photos online.
See I told you there was an interesting discussion here.
Your teacher issue is multi faceted. A 22 year old teacher having sex with an 18 yr old senior isn't particularly disgusting from an age perspective (18 year olds date 22 year olds fairly frequently) but it's a massive abuse of power/position.
You mentioned age of consent so when a 14 year old robs and kills someone we often treat them as an adult. Are they an adult only for that specific situation?
FTR I agree my kid (16 now) was a moron at 14 and definitely not an adult and he incredibly mature.
The point about life expectancy is a good one. People live longer so the need for pairing and procreation is not as great.
So you said the problem is an adult molesting a child; for the sake of discussion what's an adult and what's a child? I mean I think we all agree a 30 year old having sex with a 12 year old is gross and immoral as well as illegal and did I mentioned disgusting. So where is that line for you?
rather than trying to find the fine line between barely acceptable and straight degeneracy... maybe focus on actual morality?
The current laws are just fine, for everyone who isn't obsessed with child sex. If you are actually asking these questions, you should probably talk with a therapist. Maybe the degenerates in our society should focus more time on encouraging kids to NOT have sex until marriage... rather than teaching them all the current forms of degenerate behavior? Let's focus less on if it's legal for a 14 year old to have sex with a 18 year old... and more on teaching teenagers to control their emotions, hormones and behavior.
In the history of the world your last sentence hasn't worked. I agree that is the correct expected outcome.
I don't need a therapist.
Let's just say your way doesn't work, people still have sex, there need to be defined rules for a functioning society. For thousands of years those rules allowed things we no longer allow for, that's progress.
OK... how about this...
It should always be illegal for a teacher of any age to have sex with a student in high school. Forget about age. If a teacher is found to have had sex with a student, that teacher should be facing jail time.
There is NO excuse for a teacher, who should be considered a full grown adult, to have sex with a student.
At the college level, it should not be a criminal case as both should be considered adults... but in high school, there is just no excuse. If you can't deal with that, then don't become a high school teacher. And the argument that we need more teachers is just going to be ridiculous. No one needs a teacher who is only there because they don't have to worry about going to jail because they can't control themselves.
I am sad for the 17 year old kid... but he should have known that he was playing with fire. If you know the girls parents don't like you... and you have sex with her anyway... what the hell do you think is going to happen? Are you saying that the boy was raped by the girl? Good luck convincing anyone of that one. Do I think he should be a registered sex offender... no. But I remember my father and one of my coaches warning me that "16 will get you 20". It was a very, very common quote back in the 80s. This boys parents failed him miserably, if they never warned him of the dangers of having sex with your girlfriend.
Also, i forgot to address your last line. No, for thousands of years, if a young girl was discovered to have had sex with a man before marriage... the girls family would either force the man to marry the girl, or they might murder him. In many cultures throughout history, the mans execution at the hands of the family would have been considered justified. Perhaps you have heard or read about duels in England or the family feuds in colonial America. Many times, there was just such a situation that had occurred which lead to either a feud or a duel.
So no, young kids having sex outside of marriage has never been acceptable in most societies & cultures.
ShooterTX